Your Marriage Is An Empty Box
Today we’d like to introduce you to Chindah Chindah.
It’s an honor to speak with you today. Why don’t you give us some details about you and your story. How did you get to where you are today?
Thanks for having me and what an honour to do this interview. It’s interesting how life works for different people either with simple or complex backgrounds.
I am Chindah Chindah, the 28th child in a family of 36 children, but dropped to the 11th child of 20 children alive. I lost 16 siblings to various illnesses during the Nigerian civil war and post-war era. My late dad had 3 wives, 68 grandchildren and 25 great-grandchildren. My early life was not glamourous and exciting at all. But, I learned early on to make the best of my resources, refusing to let limitations derail me from my life’s purpose.
I have different things I do, but for the sake of today’s interview, I will talk about my journey to becoming a Relationship and Marriage Coach.
It all started when I lost my stepsister to an abusive and toxic marriage. Her death inspired me to find answers about creating and building successful marriages. My findings were to know what couples can do to be happy in a relationship regardless of their differences and this resulted in the creation of:
How To Create And Build A satisfying Marriage Daily In 90 Days.
Now, I am willing to share it with the world, so that intending and married couples can mutually work on their marriages and create strong, loving, and satisfying marriages. So, my stepsister’s death and my pain gave rise to my relationship coaching journey.
I’m sure your success has not come easily. What challenges have you had to overcome along the way?
I had to overcome my limiting beliefs and childhood trauma to flourish in my marriage first. I came from a polygamous home, where a lot of chaos and sometimes hatred existed due to a lack of proper family function. I have seen a lot of marriages that started so well collapse; the death of my sister was also a big one for me.
My wife and I, had to find ourselves (self-discovery), feed ourselves (personal development) and fight our natural tendencies ( dealing with our flaws intelligently) so we don’t relapse into selfishness and complete autonomous living. We are meant to have we mentality and not you only mentality. So, we suddenly realised that our marriage was an empty box, and it was up to us to add or deposit what we wanted to experience in the relationship. I had to adjust and make room to accommodate my wife and she had to do the same if we wanted a happy marriage.
Many relationships are drowning and unsatisfying because the spouses are not willing to intentionally face the reality of their unique differences. Many are not ready to make sacrifices and decide to love unconditionally.
Let’s talk about the work you do. What do you specialize in and why should someone work with you over the competition?
I am an Award-Winning Motivational and Transformational Speaker, a Certified Life, Relationship, and Performance coach. An NLP Practitioner, Best Selling Author, Entrepreneur, Preacher, Senior IT Consultant, Passionate Youths & Young Adults Leader & Mentor.
I am the founder of the following organizations: Limitless Life Pro Academy, Married Life Management, CARE Ministry & 4XL Telecoms, UK. I have written two bestselling books: What Can I Do to Make My Marriage Work? And The Power Of Personal Change.
I teach and mentor young generations to rise to the challenges and changing times, to develop into accountable and responsible leaders of tomorrow with a distinctive and high-performing mindset, while retaining their identity of their best and highest self.
I coach mature single adults, engaged persons, newlyweds, the married, single parents, separated and the divorced, to find their unique relationships and personality differences, to responsibly manage and overcome all relationship’s pain points, to create and build a relationship that is stable, strong, and satisfying throughout their lives together.
One more important thing you must know about me is that, if you work with me, be sure that I will be real, raw and uncensored.
What’s your best piece of advice for readers who desire to find success in their life?
I would like to say that, finding marital and relationship success is personal. If you want romance, love, peace, harmony and satisfying marriage, stop looking for it. You must become what you want to get what you need in your relationship.
Marriage is like an empty box. You intentionally deposit and invest in your marital and happiness box, if you desire any meaningful and long-lasting return in investment.
Marriage is a journey and a school; you don’t assume you have arrived in knowledge. It’s a place where you continuously adapt, evolve, and grow into a unique individual according to the seasons of marriage. Every marriage and relationship is specially designed for you to create and build what you want to experience.
Speaking of success, what does the word mean to you?
Marital success is when you are fully in alignment with yourself and your purpose in life. Without this self-discovery and fundamental understanding of who you are, you will be expressing a different identity and beliefs that may not be completely true about you.
Hence, self-discovery, and self-actualisation will allow you to show up to your current spouse or future spouse with confidence to love and be loved.
What’s next for you?
I am on a mission to help 100 thousand couples around the world create and maintain a satisfying marriage by December 31st, 2025. To support my mission, I have designed and created an online course titled: How To Create And Maintain A Satisfying Marriage Daily In 90 Days. This course will be out by the end of January 2022.
I have 3 important Couples Connect Conferences and Celebrations events happening this year. One will be in Lagos, Nigeria, the second in London, United Kingdom and the third in Houston, Texas. I am available for coaching and speaking engagement; either offline or online anywhere in the world.
Finally, how can people connect with you if they want to learn more?
People can connect with me via my various social media platforms and emails too.
Facebook: Chindah Chindah-Married Life Management Youtube: Married Life TV
Books: What Can I Do To Make My Marriage Work? and The Power Of Personal Change